Self Care 101

I strongly believe in self -care. I didn’t noticed I had an issue with self care until my mentor pointed out that I must also take care of myself in order to care for others effectively. In my field especially, working with high levels of stress, can lead to burn out, very quickly. I felt burned out the first 11 months in my job. I think it was because I didn’t have time to process moving into a new area and picking up a caseload of 80 something clients. I can also be a perfectionist and be stubborn. I am the type of person to say “I’m fine, I can come back to myself later. I continue to practice, saying “no” to commitments that do not benefit restoring my energy , setting boundaries,  and seriously taking the time to enjoy “me time.”  I stumbled across this article and want to share this with whoever is interested in self care article/books: self care A-Z article


Checking- In

Quick update about my previous post:

CAREER:  I had plans of leaving the agency, but I have more thinking to do before I take that risk again.  Second, I will be renewing my LMSW next summer coming up 2019! Third, still adjusting to the new changes in our office. I have been doing yoga recently and that has helped with some of my stress. Fourth, I have an outline of being a certified trauma focused CBT child therapist. I’m adding adult trauma in this too (I just have to do some research) and lastly I am trying to get better at my paperwork/caseload (it’s never ending!)

PERSONAL: I still struggle to make friends and be able to be social like I would like to be, but it’s been okay for me. I find myself busy at times and depending on the weather I stay in with my dogs which isn’t always good because they need to let out their energy. I did sign up for a 10 k in October which I will start training for next month.  I still have a roommate that helps out paying my loans and will have a second one in July. 

That’s my quick update.

I have books that I want to start reading on and keep decluttering my life gradually. GOALSSSS!!

Next year goals 2019 

Here are 4 goals to meet within the next year:

  • Meet 100hrs of face to face clinical hours each month  (at least 90% or higher)
  • Complete all paperwork within the time frame expexted 
  • Increase emergency services during office hours and afterhours 
  • Certify in Family & children trauma cognitive behavior therapy 

The first three are required to continue my work at my agency. The last goal I suggested it to my supervisor because it would be useful to have as I build my own expertise. 

Farewell angels…

I want to share with you the loss of another client. 

I will not provide details of course.  I will only express my feelings in processing my grief. 

The first client I lost was before working a year in the field. I cried for this person. I met this person for at least 3 times. The death was Unknown, possibly of an overdose or withdrawal. I still cannot get over the loss. Because of this person, it changed me in the way I ask my questions and ask often about suicidal thoughts or attempts. 

This next person that passed away, was the nicest person ever. I had the pleasure to work with them for a year. It is also uncertain to me what happened. My thoughts are medical reasons. This time I did not cry, I gave myself some quite time and thought about my work with them. 

If I had a super power, it would be to heal humans from pain, and trauma. 

I have learn quickly that I must adjust to situations in order to continue my work.

I know both souls are looking down on me and others. I wonder whats it like over there. I pray for them whenever I am reminded of them. It is admiring that they have allowed me into their world for a moment where I was their listener and allowed them to feel  safe to express their most deepest concerns. I carry it with me as I continue to help my brothers and sisters in suffering. 

May they rest in peace. Farewell beautiful souls, farewell angels.  


When it comes to knowledge and building my personal tools — I can be ambitious. This list is over 33 hrs of online training. Although the board can accept 20 hrs, I will be sure to sort out the important ones that I can use within this year and next years. All of them are relevant. However, my time is limited.  I will start them in Aug. I will plan at least 2 electives every month. Perhaps I will start the first of each month to get them out of the way. 

The end of month of — it can be brutal for me, my work requires me to submit all paperwork , up to date at the end of the month. No one fully understands until you yourself do the work. Budgeting purposes. I totally get.


Elective Duration (Hrs) Date Completed
A Culture-Centered Approach to Recovery  1  
Adolescent Suicide 1.5  
Advanced Strategies Motivational Interviewing 1.5  
Anxiety Disorders Among Older Adults 1  
Attachment Disorders Part 1: Understanding and Defining Attachment and Trauma 1.5  
Attachment Disorders Part 2: Assessment, Diagnosis, and Treatment 1.25  
Barriers to Recovery 1  
Best Practices: Behavior Support and Intervention 1  
Bipolar and Related Disorders 2.5  
Calming Children in Crisis 1  
Crisis Management 1.5  
Crisis Planning with Families 1.25  
Does Your Organization Measure Up: Are You Really Trauma-informed? 1.5  
Domestic and Intimate Partner Violence 1.25  
Internalizing Disorders: A Focus on Anxiety and Related Disorders in Children and Adolescents 1.5  
Introduction to Trauma-Informed Care 1.5  
                                                                             Law, Ethics and Standards of Care in Behavioral Health 2  
Medications Related to Schizophrenia and Other Psychotic Disorders 1  
Posttraumatic Stress Disorder 1.5  
Practical Strategies for Engaging Families and Children 1.5  
                                                                        Professional Ethics for Social Workers 1.25  
Relapse Prevention Treatment Strategies 1.5  
Relapse Prevention: Cultural Issues 1.25  
Solution-Focused Therapy 1.25  
Substance Use in the Family 2  
Suicide Assessment and Treatment 1  
Therapeutic Boundaries 1  
Trauma and Stressor Related Disorders in Children and Adolescents 1.5  
WEBINAR: Implementation of Trauma-Informed Care Systems 1  
What Does Becoming Trauma-Informed Mean for Non-Clinical Staff 1  
Working with the Homeless: An Overview 1.25